Test of Faith

Death can sometimes bring about a serious test of faith for those that practice religion. It is the old paradox: why do bad things happen to good people? Why are those that live good, selfless lives sometimes seem to be unduly 'punished' by dying early? This can cause parents to question their beliefs and may shake their faith. Regrettably, this website cannot provide the answer to such a philosophical dilemma that has puzzled humanity for thousands of years. However, it is wise for parents in such situations to meet with their local spiritual and religious leader and to find guidance in the place that they usually find their strength.

For those who don't practice a religion, a child's death can sometimes guide them to the Church and to seek an understanding to their loss and a new meaning to their life. Attitudes towards death and life can be radically altered by the loss of a loved one, be it a child or partner.

For others, the pain of loss can be too great and they wish to die. The desire for death can come about through the fear of being alone. It can also occur because of the guilt some parents feel because they believe that they did not fulfill their natural obligation to protect their child. Often these feelings subside in time but it is vital that family and friends keep a close watch on the bereaved. Professional counselling can be of great value at times like these.

Adapted from: Joy Johnson, 'Keys To Helping Children Deal With Death And Grief', (Barron's Educational Series, Inc., 1999)
Harold Kushner, 'When Bad Things Happen To Good People', (Random House, 1987)