Emotional Needs - Different and Complex

For many, it's important to have intergenerational relationships because they encourage wisdom, exchange and support. As the late Margaret Mead - a prominent scientist, anthropologist and social activist - said, "In all societies, it is important to have someone care where you sleep at night." There's a vast range of printed material on aging, retirement and seniors. A good first source is the book What Are We Going to Do Now?: Helping Your Parents in their Senior Years by Dr. William Molloy, a specialist in geriatric medicine at Hamilton's McMaster University.

Loneliness can be a concern for elders and caregivers alike. A caregiver may feel detached from normal everyday routine, with social contact largely confined to the interaction with the person being looked after. For elders, care options may involve a move away from family and friends that can leave them feeling isolated forgotten and helpless. Signs of loneliness may include over-sleeping, watching television all day long or a tendency to dominate a conversation.

Conquering Loneliness

• Suggest volunteer work with a local charity, hospital or school.

• Look for solutions in life skills. A retired tradesperson might be a valuable addition to a local school's technical programs or as a neighbourhood jack of all trades.

• Internet access is a great window on the world and an excellent way of keeping in touch with family and friends

• Rhonda Katz, a Toronto-based family therapist, says, "Many seniors gain emotional support from their place of worship. As well as helping them renew their faith, it can get them involved in charitable activities that keep them active in the community."